I picked up the $99 borescope from Autozone with a $25 off coupon and poked it around in the cylinder where I was worried that I'd lost the washer. Obviously I couldn't get it under the actual valve but from what I could see it didn't look like there was anything down in there. There was just enough of a gap that I'm still a little nervous but I'm hoping it would be just too much of a coincidence that I would happen to lose one down a cylinder and there's another one that got lost down the valley in the same spot.
While I was out I'd left it pressurized to the 9-11 arrow and it looks like it leaked a little more up front but not by the water pump hoses. Arrrghh...